“I don’t want to see you get hurt”, a statement I’ve heard more than once recently. In these conversations, the sentiment is often followed with “Guard your heart”.
Since I tend to take the Bible pretty seriously, and the words “Guard your heart, for it is the wellspring of life” are written there, I think this is wise advice. However, I think that I’ve spent so much time guarding this precious heart of mine that the idea of opening it up to anybody is terrifying and nearly impossible. Allowing people in feels like trying to take down steel walls with a plastic hammer.
We are so afraid of hurting what’s behind those steel walls, that we use the softest tools possible to break them down. This method will always prove futile.
When taking more drastic measures, the risk of hurting what’s behind those walls becomes much greater. However, with the right care and support, that hurt can become less, and can heal quickly.
Let’s stop trying to avoid hurting each other (me) and allow truth to break down the barriers that keep us from really living. Truth that is given in love, with space to heal and recover from any wounds. Then, let’s put up fences with gates that are yes, guarded, but that we have the power to let healthy people in and toxic people out.
I would much rather be free to live life fully with some pain, than be locked inside a prison that I’ve put my heart in for fear of being hurt.